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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I'm sorry, I don't care if the family has billions of dollars. That's a gross observation. It doesn't matter how over the top this is or how spiritual it is for the family, they have a right to do whatever they want to do. This is your failure. It is your job to help your child be well-adjusted socially. Facilitating hangouts starting with elementary School play dates, getting them involved with extracurriculars outside of school, doing meaningful things with cousins and extended family, quality time with siblings, etc. You do the things you have to do to build up your child so they feel confident.

Sorry I know that's really harsh but when you bring the family's net worth into it and take into account that these are teenagers, it's just getting ridiculous. The ship sailed on inviting the whole class a long time ago, and [b]if you put your socially disadvantaged child in a snobby private school, shame on you. [/b][/quote]

The bolded part is very true. S[b]ocially, many rich kids like OP's kid might be better off in a good large public with money spent on outside enrichment, rather than an elite private school that although it provides a very academically enriching environment is also very toxic social-wise.[/b][/quote]

I was just thinking this as I was reading the thread.  I went to a small private school in a different metro area through 8th grade.  I had plenty of friends but looking back, those who were shy, different etc. were probably having a very hard time, there was essentially one large friend group.  My parents moved both my sibling and me into larger catholic schools for high school that had a much more diverse socioeconomic populations because they thought the transition to college would be hard from such a small school.  I can't think of anyone who didn't have a friend group in my grade in high school.

People with an extremely high level of wealth sometimes use it as an excuse to act however they want.  Money doesn't equal class and it certainly does not provide people with an inclusive social viewpoint.

OP - my heart really goes out to your son.  I hope that in two weeks this is a distant memory.[/quote]

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