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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When they warn about eternal damnation or whatever it is they believe, I would just respond that’s just their opinion, I have my own opinions, life goes on. They give you religious stuff, just kindly accept it and donate it or toss it in the trash (in private). No need to cut people off.[/quote]

This. This. This.

Sheesh people. You guy get triggered by someone telling you that you will rot in hell.

When my MIL told me and my kids that, I said “Great, it’ll be an interesting and painful afterlife but I’m sure I’ll find some company.”

Then DH, me and kids laughed and moved on (our answer to a million crazy things people say).

But we don’t cut them off for something so stupid.[/quote]

DP.  How did you get to the age you are and not recognize that not everyone reacts the same way as you and your kids? You and your kids might be able to shake it off easily but my kids don't.  The internalize it and start doubting themselves and our choices.  It's a problem when choices are made from fear (burning in hell) rather than preference.  My kids struggle with that enough.  If my mother or ILs continued to push ideas that contributed to my kids' anxiety or contrary to my values, I would absolutely cut them off. [/quote]

Everyone is entitled to their ideas and is "free to voice those ideas".  However, nobody is required to sit and take it and let it have negative responses for their kids/family.  Would you let your parents tell your kids "you suck, you are stupid and if you don't figure out math you are going to burn a quick death sooner rather than later" or anything like that?  I certainly wouldn't allow anyone to do that to my kid.  That is not healthy for most kids (or adults).  Your job as a parent is to protect your kids from terrible people and to also teach them that it is not healthy to surround yourself with people who treat you like crap.  Hence why anyone doing that would be cut out of our lives.  Just like I'd cut out a pedeophile or someone who hits/phsycially abuses my kid.  This is verbal/mental abuse.

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