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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't understand. If he is a professor, he has some flexibility to contribute to the house and take care of the kids. Like the whole point of tenure is to have more flexibility. Or is he simply an adjunct? (I doubt that, if he's getting a sabbatical.) Sounds like you don't respect him if you call it a hobby job. 
 
Why are you so burnt out? If your goal is to be a mother then you need to modify your lifestyle to support a single income.[/quote]

I am open to modifying our lifestyle.
We can move back into our old house, and I am happy to do so. Our tenants move out in June, we could do it then.

If we did that, we could live on my husband’s income for the most part. However, he is refusing to do this. 
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So you just dont want to work at all, and have your husband support you, but he doesnt make enough? It sounds like you wont let DH take on more household responsibility so you are running yourself ragged trying to do both. Take a more relaxed position, and both work towards a healthy happy future for your kids. [/quote]

I want to work, but I work in a volatile industry, and I am an anxious person. I want to be able to live on one income (his) and save my income / use it for things like college savings and vacations. I overwork now because of anxiety. I think I might be able to work less and stress about work less if he showed more initiative to earn more. I think this would give us the balance you are describing. [/quote]

Pp. So you're a lawyer and he's a professor.

You aren't the first woman to go crazy while pregnant. I've done it too, so you're at least the second. That said, you really need psychiatric help now. Do you have a therapist?[/quote]

I don’t have a therapist right now. I should look for one. The last time I was pregnant I was concerned I might get PPD so I lined one up preemptively. Fortunately I did not have PPD and my experience as a mother had been nothing short of a delight from start to finish. I know my marriage sucks and I screwed my life by marrying the wrong person for me, but I am so grateful to have her. In any event, with my anxiety I know I am still vulnerable so I should get another therapist. [/quote]

Look into meditation.  You need to quiet your mind.  I get that you don’t like your husband, but I suspect your life will not be any easier if you guys split up and you become a single parent.

I suspect you also need a reality check on your finances.  I would bet you are in better shape than you think you are.  Look into Empower.  They have some really good calculators that let you plug in events like college and play with retirement ages and you can see how well you’re doing.  
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