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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think we all also need to consider how literally crazy-making our modern culture is.

Mental illnesses can be triggered by the environment around a person.  There's no telling who might be vulnerable to what situations and some personal relationships hurt instead of help.

I am constantly surprised by all the diagnoses on this board...2E children, Aspergers, ADHD, etc. etc.  The talk of executive functioning coaches, etc.

How I feel/what I believe (as opposed to scientifically know) is that there are a lot of smart/brainy people whose brains were designed to succeed in an environment of scarcity.  Scarce material things, scarce information, smaller groups of people to know and rely on long-term, relatively straightforward jobs where careful attention to detail might produce superior results, etc.

Now we live in a culture of abundance and many of us "smart people" can't handle the volumes of stuff, the amount of work it takes to optimize every decision, the vastly expanded social choices we have, and the greater specialization and complexity of our jobs.  We also have created quite a lot of work-life balance issues for ourselves.

I see why a lot of people have trouble now that might have been perfectly fine running a farm in a small village 300 years ago.[/quote]
In other words if your have adhd or add you need a very simple life and lifestyle to not flip out or shut down. Like minimal stuff, one kid or less, same job, stay at home. [/quote]

MIL was/is a SAHM with quite serious ADHD although nobody knew it at the time. She's the sweetest person in the world, but whenever we visit the dinners and house cleaning are 100% on FIL. When I asked XDH how she parented, and whether she ever set expectations re homework etc (you should see some of his siblings), he said she mostly sat in a rocker and smoked. [/quote]

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