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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does the seven year old ask other kids moms why they don’t work?  I find this so hard to believe.[/quote]

You don't think 7YOs are curious about how other families do things? My kids weren't judgy about family differences (except to the extent that other families were more fun than ours), but they absolutely wanted to know why someone had two mommies or only a daddy or went to Florida on vacation or didn't have siblings. And kids in search of information can be relentless.

Have you seriously never had to pull a "We'll talk about it later" with your kids?[/quote]

This. My kids would definitely have asked. it's being mean. They were curious about everything. Also, at that age they have little career days so they wonder about different types of jobs people do. If Ops brother were employed as say a trashman, he would have been a hero to my son and he would then go brag to his all his friends about his uncle's job and the truck he drives or rides on. My kids consider being a SAHM or SAHD a job, so that they would have been fine with that answer. They would have been confused by am adult who is not retirement age who has no kids, no spouse and doesn't work, and they would ask and we should shut it down. It's much easier when the family doesn't have shame about disability and you know the person is getting help. Then you just explain to your kids and you talk about the importance of getting help for our struggles. it's when there is secrecy and family myths "Uncle Fred is totally fine and has no issues. He just lives with his parents, does nothing all day, doesn't get help, but nothing to see here, he is totally fine."[/quote]

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