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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It depends on what kind of a marriage you have. A secular one which is really just a social contract or a religious one that requires fidelity?

If you only want a contract, don’t lie by agreeing to a religious ceremony in which fidelity is promised openly. Otherwise, you are being dishonest.

Ester Perel is from the Netherlands, correct? She also takes a secular view of marriage and other relationships. So take what she says with an awareness of her perspective.[/quote]

I mean an Islamic religious marriage explicitly does not require sexual fidelity of men unless so stipulated so let's not pretend marriage is the same for everyone. [/quote]

That’s not true. [/quote]

Have you discovered a version of Islam that bans polygamy for men?

Please, elaborate. [/quote]

The majority over 95% of Muslim men are in monogamous marriages.  They hate  divorce because  men pay for the wedding not the woman’s dad so it’s costly/a waste if she does leave

However, you are correct that Polygamy is allowed but only if a man is super rich or has up to 4 properties to house multiple wives and can take care of them and children . The idea behind this is rich men need to populate more and deserve more women and more children because they’re successful and so the wealth and power doesn’t die out. Thats  how the Saudi kingdom has a gazillion people and took pretty  much the entire country out of poverty (most people have a female relative who married in) and old money families in the West like Rockefellers or even Windsors are losing people.

Then; you have the religious extremists or  immigration fraudster playboys who have an American or Euro wife and a wife “back home” who is clueless  . They don’t have any money really but somehow get multiple women to marry them . But again, these people are the fringe. Majority of Muslim men are monogamous and love their one wife and children fiercely

In any way, playboys are gonna be playboys and it sucks [/quote]

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