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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’d be more concerned about your husband being a “no” than birth defects. If he doesn’t want a third, then there should be no third. [/quote]

[b]And what about my dream, my entire life, to have three children? Just curious why people like you always insist that his wishes should win out over mine. 
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FWIW he is also wishy washy at best but basically just thinks it sounds hard. Meanwhile, I feel like three children is my destiny, a feeling I've had my entire life. [/quote]

The "no" vote always wins. If this was a dealbreaker for you, you should have picked a different DH. Did you not discuss these things?! If you've had this feeling your "entire  life" SURELY this was discussed and agreed to, no? Plenty of guys out there who would be fine with 5, should've gone for one of those.[/quote]

I agree, and also if 3 kids was your life dream (weird), you should have started sooner instead of waiting so late. I don’t think it’s fair to force a child upon someone who doesn’t want one. No means No. When it comes to offspring with your spouse who will also be responsible for raising them, either you’re both on the same page or not. Unanimous decision.

Quite frankly you sound a bit selfish and unrealistic. If you do decide to move forward with having another child against your husband’s wishes, be prepared for more stress, resentment and possible divorce down the line, and raising all 3 on your own.[/quote]

This is such an unfair characterization of OP’s post and comments.[/quote]

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