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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is happening with the Christmas/birthday loophole here? Why is Christmas/birthday okay but not a random Tuesday?[/quote]

We don't celebrate "random Tuesday" but if you do, go for it.  We do celebrate taco Tuesday occasionally.[/quote]

But the economics are the same. I just don’t get why having your parents buy you things is some sort of moral hazard but it’s okay if they keep it to two times a year. Is the overall budget the same either way? So why not just give them the budget? At the point where Christmas and Birthdays are just a layaway system I no longer get the point. [/quote]

Because there is a fundamental difference between getting gifts on special occasions vs being handed an unearned chunk of money on a weekly or monthly basis. My kids have to do chores to earn an allowance, so are not entitled and have a good sense of work needed to generate income. That is in addition to the beneficial budgeting skills.[/quote]

I am surprised people here expect teens to buy all their own clothes. To me some clothing (not talking about fancy brands) is a parental responsibility.[/quote]

Essentials, yes.  But refilling a walk-in closet yearly for a 12 yr old? No.  Giving your child $150/month to buy clothes is ridiculous. How much stuff do they need? Teaching horrible values. So wasteful. [/quote]

$1800 per year. For a kid who isn’t in kids sizes and outgrows 85% of their each years. Girls probably have more times, but I have boys and in a given year I need - 
1 winter coat
1 light jacket / waterproof shell
1 hoodie
7-9 pairs of pants including khakis, jeans, black pants for concerts but mostly sweats / athleisure. 
7-9 pairs of shorts including 1-2 khakis or over looking shorts. 
3-4 long sleeve shirts and 3-4 short sleeve shirts to augment the school spirit and sports teams things that seem to multiply in their closets. 
2 swim suits
2 button down shirts - one white for band
Navy blazer or equivalent for dress up
1-3 sweaters or sweatshirts
1-2 shirt sleeve polo shirts 
2-3 pairs of sneakers
1 pair sandals
1 pair dress up shoes
1 pair boots or warm/water resistant shoes 
Underwear 
Socks

Even at Target / Gap on Sale prices, without the shoes, this list is easily $1800 if your kid is in adult sizes. I am guessing girls have a wider variety of non-casual items and may not wear the “field day” t shirt they got from the PTA as part of their regular outfit rotation like my less fashionable kids do. [/quote]

You are taking this out of context.  I promise the PP that is giving her kid $150/month has ALREADY bought her all the essentials.  [/quote]

I am that poster and I promise you I have not!!! She is responsible for EVERYTHING  except school uniforms.  I don't even buy her socks, underwear, or sports equipment - not even track spikes.  She asked for Drunk Elephant face lotion for Christmas and Santa put an article from the news about how that was bad for teen skin - and got her Lubriderm instead.  She can buy that herself.  DD made a very comprehensive PowerPoint presentation for Christmas with links to the things she wanted.  We budgeted $300 and stopped when we hit that amount - $300 isn't that much compared to what other families spend.  We do have wealthy grandparents, but they don't go too overboard either.[/quote]

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