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[quote=Anonymous]Once we’re married our accounts will be joint.  Why do I want him spending our joint money on a piece of jewelry I wouldn’t buy with my own money?  The whole thing seems ridiculous to me.  It made more sense when it was a way to get money out of groom’s family and also operated as some financial protection for women in the event of abandonment by the man (during the coverture rules when the marital assets all belonged to the man and he could spend them.)

Here’s an interesting historical side note.  The founder of Girl Scouts founded it in her middle age, after her husband had wasted all of their money and abandoned her and moved on with his much younger girlfriend.  (And I think most of to r money he wanted was her inheritance.).   She then sold the jewelry he gave her as a wedding gift to have the money to start Girl Scouts.  Because she had the jewelry and it was hers.  That was the original purpose of all the jewelry gifts to women — hard convertible assets not covered by the coverture laws.   See also the song Diamknds are a girl’s best friend — the whole point of the song is that when he ditches you because you’re getting older, you can sell the rock to pay rent.  It’s basically like an old timey prenup — this is what you’ll have in the event of divorce or abandonment.  I do have a small diamond that a great aunt brought from the old country when she fled her abusive spouse.  It’s probably about all she took.
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