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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. So many bad takes here. OP, this is a private school. They can do what they want. If you want to attend the school, you can either accept this or go to another school. You can argue with the school if you want, maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. The school is certainly under no obligation to admit your child in the grade you want, versus what the admissions team wants. They’ll just go to the next person on the list if you seem difficult. [/quote]

OP already has another child at currently enrolled there, they aren’t new to the private school world or this school specifically.[/quote]

I know. That still does not mean the school is under any obligation to admit the sibling in the grade that OP prefers. If the school has a wait list — and many do — the school is not going to spend a lot of time worrying about the decision. OP is of course free to ask for reconsideration politely, but the school has no obligation to admit according to what OP wants. All the hyperventilating in this thread is useless. [/quote]

Thank you. OP here. What I was hoping to get from this thread was the opinion of parents of older children. There aren’t many March redshirted kids at our school and I worry that my son will feel “less then” or perhaps other kids will make fun of him. He is also tall for his age and quite athletic (for an almost 5 year old).

I appreciate some some of the apps that mentioned that in middle school this becomes a non issue, but I am afraid of my son being embarrassed of turning 7 in K with some of his friends still being 5 and much smaller than him.

We are not very tall people (though my husband’s family has very tall people) so it’s likely his growth will slow down (it happened with my older kids).[/quote]

If there aren’t many March redshirted kids at your school, but they want to redshirt your child, you need to find out why. This does not sound right. And I say this as someone who thinks DCUM anti-redshirters are collectively one of the dimmest group of posters on DCUM, so I am hardy an anti-redshirter. It would be one thing if the school regularly redshirted March kids, but to have it rarely recommended for one child, especially when that child is a sibling, is unusual. Something seems off here, and you need to understand why. [/quote]

+1 and listen very carefully. Also talk to a specialist about the immaturity and speech delays. They may be what you should be concerned about, not the admissions offer [/quote]

OP here. He does not stand out to me in any ways compared to his classmates (boys especially). Some kids speak really well and have great vocabulary at 4-5. Others, it’s difficult to understand what they are even saying. Same goes for immaturity. His teachers tell me that kids are all over the spectrum at this age in both maturity and academic abilities. 
My son is in speech already and I am not sure what else I can do. [/quote]

Real life experience here. Son is now a senior. May birthday.  He went to a very small preschool that had kindergarten but it was like a 2 1/2 day kindergarten. Son tested very well on WPPSI - a little lower on indicators for speech and comprehension though - and was definitely on quiet side for speech. Applied to private which encouraged repeating K and getting a full day in of K for a year.  No really good reason given.  He was a bit shy.

Looking back I regret this decision - let
me emphasize, in our case.  Son is not super smart but definitely above average. He ultimately left the first private school in  high school to go elsewhere because he was unhappy socially and it is here when repeating while switching schools might have been helpful because it would have been 9th to 9th grade - but then he was way too old for that. He was also lightly teased for being older than his peers - the suggestion was always he must have been dumb. He hated it.  Also my son is tall but at a younger age parents were always saying out loud in front of other people, “oh well he’s taller because he’s older.”  My son is 6”3 now. He is just plain tall.

I would wait a few years, get support for language, and see what happens. Boys can also be slower in this area. Then, if you really really need to you can repeat by going to another school if need be or you may be just fine. My son has done fine, is happy and going to T50 college.

That said it irks me when parents get upset that there are older kids in a grade.  Some kids really need it. It is unkind to bash a kid for being older - like he is, at such young age, trying to get some kind of advantage over other children.  Like Johnny is going to take your kids college spot. (And athletic reclasses in high school are a whole other conversation)

Be compassionate people. Jeez. [/quote]

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