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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Found out that DD is having sex with a boy but they are not in a relationship since neither wants to get serious due to going away to college next year. I’m having a really hard time letting her hang out with this kid because I know they have having sex. I know they are being careful but it goes against my morals and I’m honestly just disgusted by the thought of this. How can I get over it and am I to simply allow them to hang out (Obviously not in my house)!  Any advise for me?[/quote]

Have not read replies but hopefully the need to get your daughter seen by good gynecologist to check for STDs and get IUD inserted has been mentioned.

I would also advise DD to always use condoms to protect against STDs on top of getting an IUD.

Hormonal IUDs are the number one recommendation of birth control by American pediatric association as teens often forget to take daily oral tablets.

Once health and safety needs are addressed, I would try to talk to DD about the dangers of casual sex for devaluing yourself.

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What kind of sexist BS is this? Does anyone talk to teen boys about devaluing themselves? It’s 2023 and if teen girls choose to have sex with a guy and doesn’t want a serious commitment, that is OK. Can we stop shaming girls and touting guys for enjoying sex?

I mean she is off to college in 6 months. Did you all only have sex in committed relationships then? Give me a break. [/quote]

NP here. None of PP’s advice is sexist. And of course I would give my sons the same advice. In fact, if the couple gets pregnant, the son has NO say in whether the child is born or not, and is financially responsible and tied to the girl for life if she gets pregnant and chooses to have the baby.
 
And I didn’t have sex until my mid 20s, despite having a boyfriend (now DH) when younger. There are tons of good reasons to only have sex in a committed relationship, regardless of age— risk of STDs, pregnancy risk, emotional/psychological, etc. Not everyone has embraced the “free love” mantra. [/quote]

I would literally cry if I only had sex with one person.

But I love the holier than thou woman here making it seem like that is normal. It so is not. [/quote]

Exactly. Quit the crap already. Sex is normal and should be enjoyed within the safe parameters [/quote]

How are you defining “safe”? Is hookup culture safe? Birth control fails, condoms break, and being non-exclusive means you are exposed to any diseases of any of your partner’s other partners.  People keep trying to decouple casual sex from any potential consequences, but that’s impossible. [/quote]

Actually the OP never said they were having sex with others. They just aren’t being a serious everything couple.

Also, if a condom breaks there is plan b.

Stop acting like everyone should wait until marriage [/quote]

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