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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I try to teach my kids to read the room. It’s great that she is doing so well in school and it’s awesome that she is proud of herself! You can explain to her there’s a time and place for sharing her accomplishments, and that is with her family. She can tell you all about how she did awesome on her spelling test and finished the math quiz first and is in the highest reading group. Big high five from mom! Hang that math test on the fridge, take an picture and share it with grandparents, let her talk to aunt Larla (for 1-2 mins) about her latest scores. Especially praise the hard work that goes into her accomplishments! But at the same time, explain how it isn’t polite to talk about this stuff to her friends or your adult friends. It could make people feel bad if they/their kid isn’t doing as well, and it’s just rude to brag about things. Especially if no one has asked her about it! And find other things to praise about her besides academics - she was so kind to the new kid on the playground, she tried so hard at soccer even though it was her first season and she didn’t score any goals etc. It’s great to be good at school, but there are lots of other ways to be great.

I also echo what a PP said about it just being that age to brag. I have a 9yo daughter and a lot of her friends have been doing the same as your daughter, and some outright lying for attention. Bragging about first class plane tickets and front row seats and getting the latest Stanley cup and being the best on the travel soccer team etc. Lots and lots of bragging. I was totally insufferable as a child and I seemed to turn it around eventually.

My daughter is somewhat advanced but has pretty low self esteem. She recently was one of only 2 kids in her entire grade to score 100% on a big math test and her teacher emailed me to tell me, and encouraged me to praise her for it. My daughter would never have told me on her own, and these computer tests don’t send papers home. It’s not that is intentionally humble, she just wouldn’t realize that it was a big deal and that it was okay to be proud of herself. She’s SO shy and soft spoken always thinks she isn’t very smart when she really is! I wish she had half of your daughter’s self esteem. So don’t totally quash your daughter’s pride and motivation just to make her more socially palatable!

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Op. Thank you also. I love that my daughter has good self esteem, but we all have room to grow. [/quote]

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