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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, just chiming in as another person with in-laws whose expensive lifestyle and tastes don’t match their means.

I’m extremely grateful that my husband has been clear with them (and with his siblings) that we won’t be the financial backstop.

(Astonishing amounts of money have flowed through their hands, and they continue to make housing decisions that are wildly irresponsible, while ignoring our advice - which they ask for - about how to get to a better place.)[/quote]

So how does this play out? Would love to know their ages along with their expensive tastes and estimated means. Wondering if we are in for this.[/quote]

Ages: mid 70s
Means: $1Mish in total retirement savings, plus SS and a pension that throws off about $3k/month
Expensive taste: Bought a condo with carrying costs of $5,500/month in their mid 60s, seemingly unaware of the implications of that fixed expense. Want to spend $10k+/year on travel. Could cut housing costs in half pretty easily, but emotionally aren’t willing to do so.

They are obviously not destitute, but the reserve nest egg is already being spent down and they won’t be able to afford assisted living or other situation to support more extensive care. Not sure how it will ultimately play out - family history of dementia plus longevity means it could be tough. Though the flip side is that even with lower housing costs, they’d probably still struggle with late in life care costs. It’s not great. [/quote]

Is OP the last prior poster?  If they have about 6k-8k/month in retirement pre tax what were they thinking?  Were they retired when they bought it?  There are condos in NYC for example where a 20% down on a 300k list have HOA of about 2500.

The DH paying their mortgage is just crazy.  The OP wrote they are not emotionally ready to sell and these people are so selfish I'm astounded.  These grifters are taking the money their own son + DIL would otherwise use as savings for a down payment and college funds.   Luxury home and vacations.  [/quote]

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