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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In my observation, popularity still exists, but not in the same way as when I was that age. (I'm 43 now)

There seems to be 2 kinds of popular:

one is athletic, smart kids, this group is mostly boys

the other is "bad kids" who dress inappropriately, spend a lot of time on hair and make up, talk back to teachers and get ISS, this group is majority girls

This school is mostly Black and Latinx, so I think there are different factors at play.

My kid is nerdy and musical, has plenty of friends and is never bullied[/quote]

The girl bashing on this entire thread is insane [/quote]

It is really hard being a girl these days. Girls seem to be mean. The boys may or may not think you are cute. So much pressure.

My kids affluent middle and high school have a lot of very awkward looking girls.[/quote]

This isn't what I'm seeing AT ALL at our public high school. There is very little awkwardness in the girls. Still some awkwardness with the boys.

Most of the smart highly academic popular kids are girls. Or gay boys. They do debate and constitution team and mock trial and run for student elections. They often do play sports but with some exceptions that's not what they are known for. Their counterparts in boys are the athletes who also get good grades but sports is more their defining characteristic. These kids all party or are okay with partying, and they often mix with each other. They dress a little more basic and preppy but fashionable.

Then there are the popular "bad" kids but not TOO bad. They dress more urban and trendy - baggy jeans, y2k style, some of the boys seem to be getting into designer looks (mostly fake though). Girls are more into makeup, the boys usually have overgrown fluffy hair and good shoes. Some of these kids get good grades and are in sports, academics etc but its not what they are known for. Usually the "bad" behaviors of this group are exaggerated for gossip (from what my daughter says as she became friends with many of these kids this year and learned that no, they are just smoking weed or drinking at parties not doing lines of coke, but that was a good story wasn't it.....)

The kids who are really wild end up going to rehab and getting sent to alternative school by sophomore year. All the really "bad" kids are gone this year.

These two groups mix some. They certainly know each other. This is at a public high school with 400-500 per grade. These two groups probably covers about 100 kids, with another 100 kids who are also known but are more niche social groups like choir, drama, etc, 100 kids who are probably in between and known to some or known "weird kids" or known for something not good, and then about 100 who would probably be classed at NPC. Just not memorable in a good or bad way. [/quote]

Someone missed the TITLE of the thread that is addressing MIDDLE school, which is far different than high school[/quote]

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