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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you miss being young. [/quote]
OP here — Do you seriously associate trying new things, making an effort to engage with others, and staying in shape exclusively with being young? That’s very depressing.

From reading these responses, it really seems that some people believe that youth up to one’s 20s are for fun and making an effort at life, and then rest of life should be stagnant drudgery. Or maybe some people perceive effort as something you expend to attract a mate and then once you’ve locked them down, you can enjoy just sitting back and doing the bare minimum throughout the rest of life? For me, working out, trying new activities, reading up on topics I don’t know about, learning new languages, traveling, befriending different types of people, taking my career in new directions, and just exploring life weren’t things I was doing to attract someone. That’s really how I want to live single or married. [/quote]

I like to read but I am a low-key introverted person and my husband is an extrovert.  Reading your posts here, if you were my spouse I think I would shut down the way your spouse has shut down.  It seems like you may be the type of person who exhausts your partner.  There is no reason you can’t do all the things you list above by yourself and still accept your spouse.  Being into 30 million things does not make you a better person than your spouse, which you seem to believe.

This is just the vibe I am getting, it’s not an excuse for your spouse to let himself go or refuse to treat his depression.  People are responsible for themselves.[/quote]

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