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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mean you sound immature as well. I'd recommend getting out of the relationship.[/quote]
This. Grow up OP. If you want a relationship with this man then be an adult and address this woman. You can say that you are aware of things she has said about her and do not wish to build a friendship with her.

But if you want to be in this child’s life, then get over yourself and quit being so immature. [/quote]

I don’t believe I’m immature for not willing to meet with someone who has called me a “f****** b**ch” among other disrespecting terms, verbally abuses my partner when given the opportunity, talks shit about me on social media, and will not respect a single boundary that my partner has put up out of respect for me. [/quote]

Also I want to add that she did these things months to weeks before I had ever even thought about meeting the kid, so it wasn’t in response to that. [/quote]

Okay so clearly she called you these names before she knew anything about you. Clearly it’s not personal, she’s another bitter who will never be respectful to her child’s father or any woman in his life because of their past. So what?

I’m a much younger second wife and step mom whose husband’s bitter ex has called me every name in the book, so listen to me.

Do you want a good relationship with this child? Is that important to you? Do you think starting the relationship off with her mother this way is going to foster that? She obviously talks trash and will have no problem doing so to the child— do you think the child‘s feelings toward you will not be influenced by what her mother says, who she likely spends a lot more time with? Who cares what the court order says that some PPs seem to think is all that matters. What matters is this child who is unfortunately surrounded by 3 immature adults.

Why do you care so much what she has said about you? Why does your boyfriend? Is he not over her yet? Your biggest beef is she won’t respect “boundaries he put up out of respect for you” LOL darling. It’s actually just contempt he has towards her for whatever transpired between them and he is playing you to be so outraged by her so he can feel better about his part in their failed relationship. My husband and I could not care less about what his hateful ex goes on and on about. She’s so awful to both of us, but like, so what? Their children are watching and they can see very clearly that she is the unhinged one and they love and respect me so much, and I love them.

Why can’t you just meet her? No one says be best friends, but say hi and introduce yourself be cordial. However she views you after that is her problem. But I dont think it’s as bad as you think since she did extend the olive branch and tried to put together a gift for you. Do you have children yourself? Because I can tell you that any new playdate or birthday party that is drop off only, naturally you would want to at least meet the adults in charge for a few minutes to feel the vibe and preview where your child will be staying. And that’s only for 2 hours. It’s not unreasonable that she wants to meet someone who spends so much time with their precious child.

And girl, the way you got so upset when someone called him his wife?? Yikes. Tone that down. [/quote]

If only more stepmothers could be like you PP. [/quote]

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