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[quote=Anonymous]A painful read. I'm truly sorry OP. I wanted to offer a perspective, as I suspect most of the commentary here is from women. I'm a man in my 50s, divorced father in a committed relationship. First off: I concur this was rape. You said no. Period. Second, I'd suggest you focus on the reaction as the real determinant on what kind of man he is. I don't see this as in any way understandable or forgivable, but he either really doesn't remember (in which case the issue is both the alcohol and his inability to control himself) or he does and pretends he doesn't because he knows it's wrong. An appropriate contrite reaction -- with counseling, alcohol abuse work, etc. -- might not spell immediate end, and might not be unrecoverable. As for increased interest in sex, he may be trying to reset how he sees you after childbirth. I'm not saying that's right, or acceptable, or anything like that. And finally: take care of yourself. [/quote]
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