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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As the title says: I'm getting married in a few days in it hasn't crossed my mind to keep my surname. We're going to start a family and I'd love all of us to have the same surname, as we're playing for the same team. My soon to be husband is ecstatic as well that I'm taking his surname. I was aware that women with fancy careers or with research published under their names kept their surnames at higher rates as they had build a name under their maiden surname. However, I started noticing a similar trend among women with less public careers and even homemakers who I know for a fact are married. I can't imagine having a different surname than my children, but it looks like some women see nothing wrong with this. Is there a reason for this? Doesn't it cause problems the road? Just asking out of curiosity.[/quote]

I'd never change my name under any circumstances.

Regarding children, I know some families where the husband took the wife's name and they gave the kids her name as well, some where both kept their names and the kids were given his, some where both kept their names and the kids were given hers, some where the kids got some kind of hybrid or hyphenated name, and of course some where the wife took the husband's name and the kids got his name as well.

With respect to causing problems down the road, I will say that my job (with a salary paid by taxpayers) is made extremely complicated by women changing their names, changing them back, changing them again upon re-marriage and so on. 
And the reality is that many children grow up with their mothers and they both bear the surname of someone who isn't in their lives.

But ultimately you can do whatever you wish. Congratulations on the upcoming wedding![/quote]

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