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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think that’s the best thing about being a modern woman, you get to choose what you want to do!  I changed my last name because I though my husband’s was more interesting than my maiden name.[/quote]

I have a very feminist child and I asked her if she wishes she had my maiden name as her surname. She wrinkled her nose and said “I don’t love my last name but thank you for not giving me yours.”

Seriously I couldn’t wait to get a different last name. My brother actually dislikes it too and he changed his to our mom’s last name. Its not terrible, like Buttkiss or something, but still.

I think that there is a patriarchal element to it for sure but I also think that making it a pet issue like some women do is a little odd, tbh. What about the wage gap? Paid parental leave? Abortion rights? Women in Gaza? [b]Not saying we can’t care about multiple things at a time but I feel like judging women for taking their husband’s surname (like some women do) is weird and inappropriate.[/b] [/quote]

The OP said "I can't imagine having a different surname than my children, but it looks like some women see nothing wrong with this." This quote is a judgement of women not taking their husband's surname. I would never tell a friend or an acquaintance that she's wrong for taking her husband's surname, but the OP posted her opinion on a public forum and so did many other people in this thread. Those of us who don't want to change our surnames are also within our rights to express our distaste for the tradition.

And yes, we can care about multiple issues at once which is why we can both criticize the restriction to abortion right as well as the expectation that women change their names. Your brother is a great example of someone changing their surname because they didn't like the one they had. He didn't have to get married to make the change. The fact that virtually only women change their surnames, and only do so when they get married, is very telling. If their surname was the problem they would have changed it to something else soon after turning 18, marriage or no.[/quote]

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