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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s totally not crazy to go to therapy over this.  It’s bothering you deeply and you are at an impasse.  Honestly, if I wanted to redo the whole kitchen a facelift would not work for me.  It would just make me resent the situation more, especially if I could easily afford the whole redo.[/quote]

The problem is that you are describing it exactly how he wants you to describe it—an impasse.
But in reality this isn’t an impasse at all. That would imply that neither of you is getting what you want and so you’re stuck. But that’s not what’s happening. He is perfectly happy doing nothing.
You are not.
It’s time for you to assert your desire and spell it out :
Larlo—we have lived in this home for X years and you’ve been very happy with it the way it is. I have been unhappy with the way our kitchen looks and functions, and it’s made me uncomfortable.
And now it’s my turn to be happy in our environment too.
It will be uncomfortable for you for a month or so while the remodeling is happening. And then I am looking forward to both of us really enjoying the new space.”

Then schedule the demolition day and enjoy!
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