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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a DIL to little kids and my inlaws drive me insane.  But I did get some helpful advice to not get so worked up over it.

Its that time clicks differently when you get old.  You are painfully aware you have a finite amount of opportunities left for things and that it could be over (not necessarily death - but sudden onset of illness, spouse declining etc) at any moment.  So in your situation, I can see a world in which your mother in law had built this up as potentially the last time to host or have all her kids together for xmas.  She knows you have another baby coming and might not be willing to travel for a few years and she could have been hanging on to this xmas as a last chance that is no gone.  So she panicked for a minute that she'd never have her kids all together again for xmas and asked for something self-centered without thinking it through.

That doesn't mean you need to accommodate it, just that you can understand more how someone could get more narrowly focused on specific events when it feels like time is slipping away.  Obviously I made up this scenario but the overall theme of the increasing worry that time and opportunities are running out is pretty common.  I see it in my inlaws and parents increasinly trying to cram in the things they want to make sure they do in life, especially as they've hit their 70s and odds are at least half of each couple won't be healthy and mobile enough for it in another 5 years or so. [/quote]
Long story short: [b]MIL became a selfish B with age[/b].[/quote]

You are overdramatizing on the MIL per the usual. There does come a time when having all your children, and then their families together under one roof takes a micrable to pull off and nearly impossible. You should stop being such a selfish B as a mom yourself and offer grace to your MIL as you will be in her shoes soon enough. [/quote]

Found the other selfish B MIL!

You had your time, MeeMaw. It’s about the new families now.[/quote]

Until he divorces your arrogant B self and then MeeMaw can just sit and laugh away. [/quote]

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