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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What would really grind my gears is that suggesting that OP's husband and kid come without her wasn't something her MIL blurted out in response to the disappointment. OP and her DH told the ILs, and after taking some time to think about it, her MIL's response was to figure out how she could get what she wanted. She wasn't worried about her DIL and future grandchild. She wanted HER Christmas. And she had to know this was a kind of sleazy impulse, because she didn't ask both of them. She asked OP's DH.

I'd think less of her, too. 
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OP. This is part of it for me. She sounded supportive when we were both on the phone and [b]then five hours later called DH. She had time to think about it.[/b] I was asleep so I didn’t hear the conversation but FWIW DH was annoyed that she was pushing on it. He’s scared about all of this too and doesn’t want to be away. [/quote]

danggggg that's cold. I can understand people saying something stupid in the moment, but FIVE hours later? [/quote]

Not saying wouldn’t want it to be different, but unless someone had an at risk pregnancy, most cannot empathize.  Even with miscarriages, those that have had are more likely to not stick foot in mouth.  I suspect here the MIL did kit have difficult pregnancies and without context to immediate get DIL is scared.  Not DIL job to teach MIl empathy, but unless cutting off for rest of time, would say something v stewing.[/quote]

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