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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, no, no. I hope this is a troll. OP, that day is not about you. Do not do this to your son. Sorry. You can pat yourself on the back… in private.

I’m a single mom. I do receive some child support but zero else due to distance. I have the kids full time and they see their dad when he visits our area. Even though I am doing all of the heavy lifting during the teen years, dealing with all of their teenage emotional turbulence, driving them to practices and meets and school events, helping them stay on top of schoolwork, and pretty much putting my own life on hold in order to launch them, I cannot imagine excluding their dad when graduation time comes, because that day will be about the graduating kid, not me. And they will want their dad there even if he is selfish and imperfect. We are all imperfect, OP, and we are all deserving of love and opportunity for inclusion.

A lot of people have offered good advice here. Please listen to them. You have a lot of bitterness you need to deal with. Don’t let it poison your son and his relationship with his dad. Something tells me you already have. But kids deserve an opportunity to know both of their parents, even the ones who have made mistakes. Your son will figure out what kind of relationship he wants with his dad without your input. Please just let it be. Lay down your burden.

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This. Op please listen to this comment and change your mind set before one day, you may no longer have relationships with your son.

I was a child in this circumstance . My mom raise four of us alone but my estranged dad decided to pay and support our mine and  my twin sister medical school tuition.
On graduation days, dad took us for celebration but my mom who did not even want to book anything with us, cry the whole evening, make it all about her suffering.
Omg

I bear with it for over 30 years ofp my mother s self centered. 
But I cut off all communication with her last couple of years and well, I no longer feel suffocating anymore.
It’s not that I don’t feel grateful for my mom raising me alone from 10 to 18 years old of my life. But the keep holding that over my head and take credit for every success in my life ( yes my dad paid for my medical school even he was a dead beat dad when I was younger,I feel like he should get gpsome credit too ) and me having relationships with my dad , makes my mom feel like I betrayed her. Oh well.

Too much drama.

I no longer talke to my mother at this point

I keep communication very limited with my dad too. ( why?, that’s another story) [/quote]

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