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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This just so does not resonate for me.  All the boomer grandparents I know would loose to spend more time with their grandkids.  My neighbor has offered to watch her granddaughter as many days as possible but the mom thinks it’s better for the child to have consistency in childcare (which is fine).  I know lots of millennials who want to limit the grandparents time or really control how/when etc.  My sister who is a boomer flies to her kids houses all the time to help out if one parent is traveling or they want to take a kid free vacation.
I do wonder if people are making it really hard for their parents to care for the kids by putting a ton of restrictions on it.  My grandmother watched me almost daily.  Did she do it the way my mom would have wanted?  Probably not.  I are a LOT of pudding and she let me watch some questionable TV.  But it was fine.  You have to be a little flexible and not treat your parents like employees.  I definitely see some millennials who would rather pay someone they can micromanage than let their parents have some leeway.  My approach is to set out some basic safety standards (careers, sleeping on back, etc.). But otherwise let it go. [/quote]

This has been my experience as well. I’m GenX but have lots of friends who fall into the Boomer bracket. All of them will drop everything to spend time with their grandkids. But it’s definitely different than when we were kids. As PP mentioned, our grandparents didn’t have nearly the rules and micromanagement from our parents as grandparents do now. Also, as another PP mentioned, many friends are also balancing taking care of their elderly parents so they have to balance that with the grandkids. [/quote]

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