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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Not interested in posting every detail of my child’s diagnoses, marriage, etc.

Can anyone talk about quitting their job because you did not feel it was possible to work while having a kid with SN? Was there a time period or age when it felt more manageable? Did you try, for example, taking 2-3 years off and did it move the needle? Did going back feel manageable after taking a break?[/quote]

I went to my employer to quit my job for exactly the same reason. Since I’m an excellent employee, they offered to let me work half time ( for half pay, of course.) I’m barely holding on at home, but it’s manageable. I take care of the kids in the morning, work for hours, pick up the younger from preschool, spend an hour with him, pick up the older and then do therapies at home or go to appointments. Between the two kids, I have five weekly appointments. They watch TV while I cook dinner. DH helps me get to bed. That’s when I relax or clean the house. It works because DH makes more money than I do, and we moved to a lower COL city. The key is that we’re still need a smaller city, so there are multiple therapists to choose from. As a bonus, we were able to buy a nicer house in a FABULOUS school zone, so DS is getting his needs met at school. It was awful to move away from all of my friends. I miss them constantly. It’s a financial hit to go half-time. We spend SO much money on health care that it takes my breath away. Unfortunately , DS had special needs, and this is what I had to do to optimize his growth. I’d do it all over again.

As for appointments, I send a letter when my mom takes DS to his out-of-state therapies. He goes a few times a year, and I don’t have the vacation to go with him. You could also had DH put you on speaker phone for 5 min at the start of the appointment.

Good luck. This is a difficult journey. [/quote]

I will say that my DH does not have your DH’s issues. Still, you could work full time in a LCOL area if your job was willing to let you go remote. Then you’d be able to hire out even more. I will say that finding the right school is paramount. It doesn’t matter as much for my NT son, who would thrive anywhere. My SN son benefits so much from a capable team. [/quote]

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