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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband has been really angry and rude to me because he says I disrespected him by bringing up the following 2 "charged" topics:

- Yesterday morning, I was reading the Andrew Wylie article in the NYT. I thought it was interesting and enlightening. When Husband wakes up I tell him about it and he instantly gets angry saying he hates the elites and they have destroyed out country and how they are so wrong about what good literature even is. He tells me, "you and I have VERY different ideas about this!" and starts huffing and puffing about how he loathes snobbery.

I...just wanted to have a discussion about the state of the publishing industry these days and it was a huge triggering topic for him.

- This morning I was in a conference call with a boss from work who was talking about her male children. [b]After getting off the call, I was making small talk with my husband as he was making lunch in the kitchen and I started musing about how it would feel to have a boy and whether I could be a "boy mom" and that I probably want a girl. He says he wants a boy. I follow-up to that saying that it may be a little complicated to raise a boy as you have to worry about ensuring they are socialized early and well so they aren't lonely and fall into depression. I said that I worry that maladjusted boys have a risk of doing disruptive things such as mass shootings and such.[/b] This triggered him. He started to get angry and said that wasn't true and that at least 40% of shooters are women. I was confused as that did not align with any of the data i have read so far. And I told him so. He was angry and said i am a misandrist and that I am insulting him as he is a man! And he did not like that I make generalizations about his gender!

I am increasingly confused and say that none of this is personal. He gets angry and says he does not want to do this anymore and raises his hand in the air to signal that he does not want to talk, walks away and shits the door to his room.

He has since been in his room and is stone walling me. I went over 10 minutes ago and he said he is still angry and that i hurt his feelings! Thsee topics are charged topics for him and I continue expressing my opinion and making him angry.

Isn't he overblowing this? Or am I crazy?[/quote]

He sounds nuts. You sound a little off too [/quote]

This is OP. Why am I a little off? I was raised in a family of all girls and have little experience with boys. I want to raise good, upstanding young men who do not become maladjusted teens or youths who commit crimes.

I am probably anxious and an over-thinker. [/quote]

Not the PP, but you do have a warped sense of boys I think. I would also think you have a hidden distaste for men. I have a 21 yr old DS who is the absolutely the easiest, sweetest young man you could imagine. I did nothing sepcial to make this so.[/quote]

Agree. The underlying premise that boys will turn into evil monsters without special care taken into socializing is a bizarre and unfounded bias.[/quote]
Np.. I have a boy and a girl.  Both teens.

[b]IMO, it is important for boys to have a good friend group and social skills, otherwise, they may turn into incels. Mass shooters, I don't know... but a boy who has social issues and no friends has a higher chance of becoming depressed and an incel when they get older.[/b]

My DS did not have many friends when he was younger. He was a late bloomer and has a summer bday. So, he was always socially and emotionally behind his peers.  Academically, he was like two years ahead.  He had a hard time in MS, was often angry and emotional.

Luckily, he blossomed when he turned 15 and had a major "glowup", as they say. Went back to school after covid virtual learning and kids did not recognize him.  He got into a good friend group and then got a gf.

He is now in college, and if he still didn't have a friend group, I would be very very worried for his mental state.[/quote]

Boys need good socialization and strong father figures.[/quote]

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