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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi all,

How would you take it if your MIL is buying items off your registry for her home only. She doesn’t mention buying any gifts for you to use. I will be a stay at home mom also so my baby wouldn’t be staying at her home that long and I live close to her. I also never mentioned having her look after my baby and if I happen to decide to go back to work, I would hire a nanny.

Thanks for all your responses.[/quote]

She's setting things up at her place with similar items baby will have at home. Also with items she knows you approve of. Sounds great to me.[/quote]

I'm a GP.  It's only great if those items are also purchased for the baby's house.  GP and special relationship people usually buy the big ticket items for the baby house.  Some are usually not on the registry like a crib.  So if MIL buys a pack n play for her house then who buys the pack n play for OP house?  Crib, mattress, Stroller, car seat, extra carseat base, load leg thing,  bassinet?

People often ignore the registry for a shower and post birth gifts.  So the GP should really have a close working relationship with the couple on big ticket and key needed stuff.    I doubt OP posted over a Sophie the Giraffe.  SIL and I amazed at how many pop up as gifts.  Baby gets a herd.[/quote]

The grandparents clearly have money and OP is having a baby shower. There is [b]zero chance this baby is going to go without.[/b] Parents are really expected to buy the nursery and other things for their baby anyway and they usually pick things they like that will last for a few kids anyway. OP never indicated she was broke or there was a risk the baby wouldn't have anywhere to sleep or sit. She's just mad for some inexplicable reason that the shower that hasn't happened for an unborn baby hasn't been completed. It will, she will get what she needs. MIL is apparently buying these things on sale at a good price, why should she wait? What is the problem?[/quote]

I wrote "I'm a grandparent."  Are you a parent, GP?   The way stuff like cribs etc worked for us, SIL/BIL, friends is the parents identified products and we bought them.  1st the baby house gets complete then GP.  If I have $400 to spend on a pack n play it goes to baby house.  And exactly why does anyone think people buy off shower lists?  It's more fun to surf through cute clothes and buy tons of newborn stuff that won't get used than buy a case of diapers and wipes.   Or they get piles of swaddles and sleep sacks and the baby prefers the onesie-footie.

How 1 baby gets 8 swaddles, 10 sleep sacks, and a herd of giraffes...[/quote]

There is no rule "1st the baby house...." you made that up. My mom also bought baby stuff on sale when she wanted. The baby isn't born yet and a shower is in the works this baby will be provided for. So what if she's buying stuff now? If OP wants to cry poor then she can come back and update on her dire financial situation and fears that the baby will have nothing. But, she hasn't. She just doesn't her MIL thinking the baby will be spending any time at her house whatsoever.[/quote]

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