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[quote=Anonymous]Nothing, literally nothing, in my life is the same as it was before covid. But there's a confounding factor - I had my first child in January of 2020. He was eight weeks old, and I was still out on maternity leave, when covid hit.

What's so weird is, for me, it's impossible to separate what is different because of covid, and what is different because of becoming a parent.

I'm worse at my job. Part of it is that's it's a lower priority now because of the kids. But part of it is that I really, really miss office life. Don't get me wrong, remote has a lot of advantages (I do laundry during the workday, kids have a shorter day in childcare). But I find it much harder to focus, much harder to care, easier to procrastinate when I'm remote. (That was true even in my rare work from home days pre-pandemic).

We moved. Driven by the pandemic, but we probably would have anyway once kid #2 arrived. But it means living in a different neighborhood, different routines. We ended up doing a nanny share instead of daycare because of the pandemic, and that continues to this day and our second child. Totally different than what we were planning.

My social circle is completely different. Part of it, again, is due to becoming a mom, but part of it was loosing people because of the pandemic and not having luck rekindling. I use social media and my phone WAY more. A lot of this, I think, was actually nursing. I had an app to track feedings, and I was using it so much I just got used to having my phone on me. But a lot of it was also non-digital communications falling away with the pandemic, and doom scrolling. This is a change I see EVERYWHERE, where life is now based on your phone, in a digital world, and not in the real world, and I think it's terrible for almost everyone's mental health.

I had a bad case of PPD with my second child, that still impacts both my physical and mental health. At least some of this I attribute to the rollercoaster of newborn, pandemic, move, pregnant, newborn, all in 18 months. I've finally had some time the last year to regroup and recenter and process - but damn. That was A LOT all at once.

And we were lucky to not have serious covid health issues or to know anyone who died or is seriously struggling from covid. [/quote]

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