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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have a responsibility to your kids. Taking them someplace they’re largely ignored and seems like weak parenting to me. I’m assuming your side has cousins etc?

I think you have a choice between two awkward conversations— “MIL/FIL we’ll see you for thanksgiving dinner but we’ll be staying in *closest town with something legitimately fun or enriching for your children*” or “We’re so sorry you can join us this year! Let’s try to get together for MLK weekend”[/quote]

It really is ok if children aren’t the center of attention.  It doesn’t mean they aren’t loved and cared for.  It’s not weak parenting to have the children spend the holiday with their elderly grandparents![/quote]

Seriously.  Thirty-five years from now op will be alone on Thanksgiving wondering why her kids won’t bring the grandkids for a visit.  You reap what you sow.  [/quote]

This is exactly it.  I once read on here that if you want your kids to come home and be invested in your family once their adults you have to make it special and build traditions.  It made a lot of sense and I have taken it to heart.  If you force your kids to go to a boring Thanksgiving every year where they sit around and watch some 80 year olds read the newspaper don't be surprised when they suddenly start going home with friends when they get to college and want to spend the holidays with their ILs once they're married.
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Same. I go ALL OUT for holidays. This is my time to shine. I get 18 years of creating wonderful memories for my kids. I don't particularly care about future grandchildren, I care about my own little kids. This is why we don't rotate Christmas. People are welcome to visit us though! We both came from tiny families and our kids don't have cousins, so it's up to me to make it fun. [/quote]

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