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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Worse than getting cut, is going the entire year with only a few minutes of playing time and zero points scored.

The kind and appropriate thing to do is to help her land on a team that is appropriate for her skill level[/quote]

As a parent whose kids experienced a similar level of tragedy at about the same age, I have to totally disagree with this.

In the first months after the tragedy, my kids desperately needed outlets like friendships and sports.  They also needed familiarity, and known adults, like OP's DH, who weren't out of their mind with grief.  I will forever be grateful to the parents of my kids' friends who stepped up and gave my kids opportunities to stay connected and get a break from my grief and all the triggers at home.

The idea that taking that away from them, could somehow be measured against the "devastation" another child might experience when not making a new team, is bizarre.

I'll also say that yes, of course, the kid trying out could have some difficult situation.  But that kid isn't part of this community yet, so it would still just be the loss of a spot, not the same as the loss of familiarity and existing connections.  Because our trauma happened during the pandemic, one of my kids switched from an indoor sport to an outdoor one.  I didn't expect that coach to kick off an established athlete, or change their standards for him.  Because it wasn't an existing relationship.  [/quote]

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