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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We share all of our food. If we go out to eat at a restaurant, we are all passing bites of our dinner around the table to each other. I've come to understand that this isn't completely normal, most people eat the dinner they ordered. [/quote]

That's my father's pet peeve! He doesn't want to eat with people who do that. He wants to eat his dinner and be left alone. No sharing whatsoever. [/quote]

I hate sharing because as the youngest in a large family my food was often taken. My mother was the worst about it. [/quote]

This reminds me of the "every man for himself" families - usually large, where there is barely enough food to go around, but whomever the cook is (usually the mom) for meals, is oblivious and just seems to think that the guests "loved her food so much, and she made just enough!" UGH. DH still has food issues from growing up that way, meals were always stressful, and supplemented with cereal and/or chips after dinner.

We grew up not sharing, and had bread and salad (from the garden) with each (varied starch, varied meat, varied veggie) meal. Not sure if that is an idiosyncrasy.  DH ate the same starch and veggie each meal, and rotated between two or three different meats, one for each meal. (We grew up working poor, DH did not).

DH does not like it if I order the same thing at dinner, it is not allowed, because of the presumption that it will be shared, yet we never share. Same with his family.

I think sharing your meal, or at least food, could have it's own thread! Apologies for the sidetrack, I just find upbringing and food dynamics interesting. [/quote]

My sister and her family do something similar.  She married a small man, and they have 2 petite girls (HS aged.  One won't make it past 5 feet and the other is probably only 5'2.  and super thing)

They'll host the family for dinner and the food is gone instantly.  No surprise.  DH is tall, and our boys (also HS.  both over 6'0) will eat triple the amount of the girls.  But they say stuff like "I can't believe there's no left overs.  I bought a 3lb sirloin!"

It was mildly annoying at first, but now we just let the boys have a second dinner at home[/quote]

That’s hilarious! My son has a friend with a similar family and he went over once to watch the Super Bowl with them. He told me he thought what was appetizers turned out to be the whole spread. He said they’d have one half deviled egg and be done. He was wondering where the rest of the meal was![/quote]

Uhh, not everyone is a fatty.[/quote]

Gimme a break.  People that don't have teenage boys just can't comprehend how much they consume and still stay fit and trim with a 6 pack[/quote]

PP here.  But that is just it - it could be men or women, boys or girls - if you are a short/skinny family, you have no idea how much regular people eat! Some families are very active and athletic, average to tall size, in great athletic shape, and they serve more than enough food; while other families are not - they don't have enough, or serve enough, but they think that is normal, and they claim it is enough.

Plus, if those who serve less food did not regularly have close friends and/or extended family over for meals, their eating habits of not serving enough is reinforced, because they have no proper gauge. If you grow up in an active, normal to tall sized family, AND have extended family and close friends to your house for meals regularly (as they did us!), then your "normal" is making sure there are seconds (and maybe thirds) to go around.  My mom would be absolutely horrified to not have enough of anything, even if it was just us. We did not have a lot of money, and many times we ate from our garden, but we always had what we needed, for food. We didn't claim it was "enough" if it obviously was not. It helps if you are a great cook - then, people usually want more of whatever you are serving.

Something else about my family is that we generally did not have any/much "junk food" around, and there was always fresh fruit and vegetables, even if grown ourselves. In spouse's family, not having enough dinner meant having chips and cereal after dinner, most nights - that was "normal" to them. Unfortunately, it often means other needs are not met, because it is a control issue on behalf of the parent. Even though we did not have a lot of money, serving healthy home made food was a priority for my parents, because that is how they were raised.

Thinking that people who serve enough healthy food for their family is a "fatty" is closed minded, ignorant and inaccurate PP. Instead, it seems that families who see to it that their children and family are eating enough healthy food are actually doing their parenting job quite well. There have been many studies on food and psychology.  I suggest you do some research of your own. [/quote]

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