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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s only victim blaming if we accept on face value that OP is a victim. It’s also possible that her spouse is a victim of her behavior. And that both of them are acting in extremely maladaptive ways to reenact familiar scenarios from their youth that are deeply ingrained in them. We are only hearing her side. We are not hearing all the stuff that he does for the household that she has conveniently forgotten. We are not hearing the times that he tried to express to her that he likes to do other things with his time or that he disagrees with her choices in how the house is run or how their child is raised or what the priorities are. She portrays that as “complaining about how I do things while he does nothing.”

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There’s no excuse for one partner abdicating all household/childcare responsibilities. You’re just fabricating the scenario where OP is at fault. [/quote]

It's just the classic argument that a wife is always to blame for her lazy husband because she didn't ask him to help the right way.

There is a hilarious episode of the podcast If Books Could Kill on the book Men Are from Mars... about this exact dynamic. Like if a husband is a huge a$$hole, the actual problem is that his wife did not phrase her request for him to stop being a huge a$$hole in the right way. It's amazing.[/quote]

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