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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just think this loneliness/lack of community has been building for a long time, long before the pandemic. The pandemic made it worse of course, but people are just increasingly self-focused while at the same time feeling judged/compared to others, all thanks to social media. People feel like they are failing or doing something wrong when they are not, just some fake influencers are acting like they have it all when they don't. This is the HGTV effect, the Pinterest cooking/birthday party effect, the "look at me I have three kids and am still the height of fashion" effect. Its fake, ITS NOT REAL and yet it puts this incredible pressure on women to be ALL THESE THINGS or else THEY SUCK.

It takes a crazy and I mean crazy amount of willpower to try to ignore this. I am so grateful to my spouse for having so much more clarity on this than I do. He is the one constantly telling me "We are fine, our house is fine, our kids are fine, our ugly kitchen that is 100% functional IS FINE."

Godspeed ladies because I don't see it improving any time soon.[/quote]

I'm the menopausal older mom posting above...I do think social media and HGTV have had a not-so-positive impact on younger (to me) people in their 30s and 40s in that these sources of information portray perfection.

There seems to be a rush for perfection that is impossible, and younger people are burning out in the pursuit of it. So many people in their 30s and 40s strike me as not having any joy about them. No lightness of being around the edges that I had at that age, even with kids in tow. Everything seems like a source of stress to them? As if they're thinking, "Another thing on my plate to try to make look perfect." They seem to have a harder time letting the smallest of things go, too? Carrying around anger over small stuff just weighs you down, it's important to find a way to let it go. To feel frustrated instead of angry.

It's as if our culture is in a huge "gotcha!" moment where people are constantly scanning everyone else for social infractions until they find one. Haha, gotcha! It's become a "reporting culture" where any complaint no matter how small can be registered online on Yelp, social media, comment threads, and on and on. No one wants a gotcha, gotta look perfect at all times. I can see how that would be incredibly stressful from my vantage point, which is being invisible to society at 55+. I don't envy you guys. Not one bit.[/quote]

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