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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a mom of older kids, I'm confused why everyone things the pandemic told them something new. Yes the pandemic sucked but we weren't supported before the pandemic either. [/quote]

Mmm, pretty sure my young school-aged kids could attend school before the pandemic.  Suddenly, school became not only optional, but something no decent parent had a right to expect.  As PPs have said, you weren't dealing with young kids during the pandemic - just as I don't know what it was like to parent teens during that time period, you don't know what it was like to parent toddlers or preschoolers or kindergartners.
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They were in elementary. But I just find this whole younger generation of parents SO effing whiny. Everything is unfair and harder for them than everyone else. Blah blah blah. Deal with it.[/quote]

And how old are you?  Either you're in your 50s/60s with much older kids, in which case you have no idea at all what it was like to parent young kids through the pandemic, or you're in your late 40s and just a few years older but complaining about this "younger generation" of parents which is ridiculous.[/quote]

I’m 43. And y’all are really whiny. [/quote]

I'm the older NP from the prior page. I'm not at all whiny in my real life, but this seems like a safe space to share with others who are experiencing similar feelings. Perhaps you should find another thread. [/quote]

The PP needs to find another thread to commiserate with other people who are so unhappy that they feel better by sneering at people who are struggling with something. Of everyone who has posted on here, the 43 year old calling other parents “whiny” for sharing their feelings is the person who needs help the most. This is truly abnormal and not something happy people do.

It’d be like someone with a high metabolism gloating when others are sharing their struggles with weight gain. Or someone claiming mental illness is just made up when someone talks about their depression.

I find people who lack empathy (and even worse, enjoy sneaking on others who are down) to be sad human beings. [/quote]

“My kid just started kindergarten and it feels like I should be moving forward, but I'm still just kind of getting by regarding work, parenting, and a bunch of other stuff (financial planning, deciding if we're going to move or fix up our current house, deciding if I'm going to make a turn in my career I've been contemplating for a while), I am just making no progress on. Same story regarding stuff like my health, maintaining friendships and building our social network, developing a hobbie, etc. I just feel kind of stuck?”

Absolutely none of this has to do with Covid. OP can’t just sign up for a hobby or call up a friend?

Literally every single parent hits this type of crossroad.[/quote]

OP here. I do struggle to sign up for a hobby. I feel so tired. All I want to do is sleep. [b]I don't have the same friend supports as I did pre-Covid -- the pandemic changed my relationships and have made it harder for me to maintain those friendships. [/b]Or maybe I was so stressed I just dropped that ball.

I don't understand what the point is of telling me over and over that "Covid has nothing to do with this." I'm just sharing my experience, which is that I felt things were moving forward before Covid, and then Covid was a big, stressful pause, and now I'm in a different place and I don't know which way is up.

Why is it so important to you that this NOT be about Covid? What is helpful about your comments. I'm sure a lot of it is just stage of life and have said as much multiple times in this thread, even thanking a poster who said it was just having a kindergartener because that makes me feel more normal.

I don't understand why this thread is now a referendum on whether I'm allowed to feel the way I do. I'm thinking about just asking Jeff to delete the whole thread because I posted here because I was feeling pretty crappy and looking for an outlet, but these comments are just making me feel worse.

Thanks for nothing, DCUM.[/quote]

This also really resonates with me. I’m fairly introverted so it took me a while after moving to the DC area to build up a small group of friends that I would get together with somewhat regularly. However obviously these get togethers halted during the early stages of the pandemic and juggling work/lack of childcare (mine were 5 and 3 in 2020) didn’t leave much bandwidth to try to maintain relationships over zoom etc.

Even after things started to open back up, the challenges of navigating different comfort levels with in person meet up’s and the continued stress of school closures, quarantines made a lot of these relationships just fizzle out and I just don’t have the energy to try to start over in building up a social circle, although I miss it.[/quote]

That part really resonates with me too. I posted earlier that we were not in anyone’s pod and I feel like a lot of people pruned their social circles (understandably!!) either to prevent exposure or because they were just so busy. And it turned out we didn’t make the cut for almost anyone. To be fair I was mostly focused on finding other children for my kid to interact with (and being depressed when I failed over and over) and neglected my own local friendships which were not super strong to start. I have to work really hard to put myself out there at all these days, I’m a way I didn’t struggle with before. It’s getting better but slowly [/quote]

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