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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]They don't have the same group of friend, so it is not in a group. It's just two kids of the opposite sex hanging out together in a public place. Seems fine to me.

OK. Then it is NOT DATING.[/quote]

What makes something DATING in your view, then?[/quote]
An exclusive, romantic relationship, where there are emotional and societal obligations and expectations attached to "boyfriend" and "girlfriend."

Teenagers who just go out to the movies, or Chick-Fil-A or hang out at the mall together aren't dating. They're just hanging out. Which is fine.

But teenagers who are exclusively dating, which means the boyfriend or girlfriend expects their partner to call or communicate at whatever cadence they deem to be affirming, who demand the person they're dating take precedence over friends or family and get jealous if you don't, or who are hellbent on PDA to mark their territory by always seeking to hold hands or post incessantly about their boyfriend/girlfriend on social are the kind of dating that I'm saying I don't want my young teen entangled in.

Again, I've seen it go horribly wrong too many times to act like it's not a big deal.[/quote]

It appears in your mind that an exclusive relationship can only be negative.

My 17 year old has been in an exclusive relationship for over a year.  She still sees her friends, spends time with us as a family, keeps her grades up, and plays 3 sports for her high school.  Does she spend a lot of time with her bf…yes but it has been a completely positive experience and she is learning what a positive healthy relationship looks and feels like.  And no…they are not having sex yet[/quote]

I already said I'd be more receptive to this kind of arrangement at 17 or 18. The OP was talking about a 14 year old, which was the focus of my POV.

I think the scenario you described is possible at 17, but not as possible at 14. Have you met most 14 year olds? They can be awful.[/quote]

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