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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's the thing. I am not mad, I am annoyed by the typical DCUM inability to read, reflect and respond if/only if you have thoughtful and on topic advice. I don't care if it's not "perfect" advice or advice I would give, but it has to follow some sort of general thought process...

A parent of three children asked specifically about losing/lack of bond with their third children. 
 
Aside from a few comments from parents of three, the direction the comments took became "here's why you shouldn't have three children and why middle children are the worst, mainly because they don't get enough love or attention (all while subtly implying no one with a sane brain or decent job or concern for their children would have more than 2).  That's common DCUM narrative and its both not helpful in this particular situation and also annoying to hear again and again from a particular (loud) group of self righteous people.

In many other parts of the country and for much of our history 3, 4, and 5 children were not only normal but considered a healthy and thriving family. No one says it is easy - and why ADVICE could be so helpful here.  But the beating of up of larger families is tiresome.[/quote]

Kindly, you need a thicker skin. Parents of one, three, and any other number other than two get the judgmental comments from others. YOU know your family is just fine and others' stereotypes are wrong, but it's a fool's errand to think you can convince others by getting upset on the internet. Yes it's tiresome, but it's based on incorrect biases and/or people's insecurities. So just ignore it and let your family speak for itself. [/quote]

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