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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's actually eight pages of people who are like

I don't have three kids BUT....

I only have two kids BECAUSE...

I would NEVER have more than 2 given...

AND THE SUBJECT LINE IS LITERALLY "Parents of three, do you feel less bonded to your third?"

How would anyone other than a parent of three children actually know the answer to that??? I am not saying you aren't allowed to have an opinion about what works for your family, but you actually really don't have any foresight into the experience of parenting three children, even if you come from 3. So no dictator here, just someone with reading comprehension and actual experience of parenting three children. [/quote]

A lot of the responses are from people who grew up in families of 3 kids. They have varying opinions on how that number of kids impacted bonds with each kid. I think those responses have been useful, and included advice about how to address having a lesser bond with one kid or another. While OP asked to hear from parents of three, I think responses from children who were one-of-three are still squarely on topic and could be useful to OP, since parents don't always know how their kids experience their family dynamic.

Also, early in the thread, it was suggested that it's more common for parents to lose or fail to bond with a middle child in a family of 3 kids. So there have been responses relating to that, because a lot of middle kids and parents of middles have opinions on that. Since a middle kid implies the existence of 3 or more kids, these seem on topic too.

There have been a small minority of responses along the lines you highlight here ("I'd never have more than 2" or "I only had 2 because"). A few, yes, but not the volume you seem to think. Most of us can simply skim past these since they aren't really on topic. If you're really mad, I guess you could report them as off topic. But the amount of anger you have about some mildly off-topic posts is weird. You disagree with them, that's fine. Move along.[/quote]

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