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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m someone who is very rigid about being on time… I’ll let it slide a bit sometimes, but absolutely not for my family. We are always the last to arrive at 5-10 minutes early and catch flack for that. I can’t imagine actually being late. I’d never hear the end of it.[/quote]

This sounds so incredibly stressful. I cannot imagine grandparents caring if their kids/grandchild show up 10-15 min. late, especially when there’s a young child in tow. My parents are very much “you’ll get when you get here, don’t stress and make sure to drive safe.” Also, we tend to keep a loose schedule to begin with (e.g. come over around 5ish and we’ll have some apps and then eat at 6:30). No one would blink at a 5:15 arrival.

As an aside I absolutely hate when anyone shows up early. If I say come over at 5, please do not ring by bell before 4:59 at the earliest. I can’t stand when people arrive 15 min. early while I’m still freshening up and putting last minute touches on apps, etc. [/quote]

Two different cultures:

1. I want to share my love with people by finding ways to enjoy each other.

2. I want people to show me they love me by performing oddly specific tasks. [/quote]

Finding ways like showing up late so that you have less time together? Genius plan.[/quote]

Or being a good host and showing grace to your own freaking child when they’re wrangling a young child out the door during the dinner/bedtime hour, which can be tough for a lot of kids. The goal is to have a nice visit, which means building your meal plan so that the night isn’t going to fall apart or result in a perceived sleight over 15 minutes. Personally if I’m hosting, I’d rather enjoy my company and not hem and haw over a few minutes on the clock and interpret my grandchild’s tantrum as some sort of referendum on my family’s respect for me.[/quote]

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