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[quote=Anonymous]I married a slightly older divorced guy with 3 kids, one of whom is special needs. I was childless myself, and a lot older than you. I married him because I loved him. And would marry him again today.

Having said that, marrying someone with kids is COMPLEX. How does he discipline? Is he supportive? Does he have them 50% of the time? Or let ex wife do most of the parenting? They are expensive. How would salaries and savings be handled to care for his 3 and your 1 child? College savings? Down payments on houses (if that's within your abilities/goals, just putting out large-ticket items here for consideration)? Marriage costs? And so on.

I could handle it just fine at 35. I had an established career. I had my own retirement savings and regular savings. I am not so sure I would want to handle it at 26.

That doesn't mean you should end it. Just know that things could be more complicated, more quickly, than you might have imagined. I'd just go slowly. If you have a real, enduring connection, you will figure that out.  Wishing you all the best. [/quote]

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