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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Only read the first 5 pages, but enough to agree with some PPs.

OP stays home with her kids.  DH goes with his parents and brother to the wedding.  BIL leaves his kids home with their mom to handle them.

I would explicitly say that I am not willing to handle four kids under 5 by myself.  For me, I would be willing to handle all four kids if BIL hires a babysitter that comes and helps manage the kids.  I can't imagine changing the 1 yo's diaper with a 2, 3 and 5 year old running around unsupervised.  But having an extra adult set of hands is fine for me.  So, BIL can find someone on care.com that will come and help me with the kids and I'd be okay, otherwise he has to leave them at home with their mom.  But, this is a little safer than just randomly hiring someone because I will be there to monitor for safety, but I won't have to do all of the childcare by myself.

That's what would work for me, but OP has to decide if it would work for her before offering.[/quote]

I try to help family when possible but handling 4 kids those ages, alone, is a huge ask. I would be open to it if BIL paid a sitter to help out- either one of OP’s regular sitters or a new sitter (which should be fine if OP is present). Also BIL should be hustling back to get the kids ASAP after the wedding events.

But I agree- that is me, and OP is certainly under no obligation to consider it. [/quote]

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