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So it's dandy that BIL can come solo and no one's reaming him over the fact his wife isn't also attending? A marathon is an OK excuse for the in-laws, but your jobs (and the fact your regular sitters all have day jobs) and children are NOT an OK excuse for the in-laws? I'm smelling some double standard among the ILs here, OP. And as someone said earlier: Your BIL assumed your family was his child care plan. Well, that was dumb of him.

DH goes. Period. It's his cousin, FFS. I dont' care if this was a "close as a sibling!" cousin, it's a cousin and wedding invitations are not summonses. You stay home, order pizza or whatever, have a nice late afternoon movie with the kids, watch a movie for yourself in the evening. And feel zero guilt.

But your DH should go prepared with some lines to say whenever anyone says anything like: "Where's Sally?" or "Cousin's special day is just not the same now because you couldn't get a sitter!" or other idiocy. Seriously. Talk to DH about pat little lines to toss off becasue he's going to get crap, and he should be able to enjoy the wedding at least a little. "Sally couldn't make it. Wow, this cake is great!" "Sorry you feel that way about it. I sure thought the ceremony was nice, didn't you?" and so on. If I winged it at a wedding like this, I'd end up snarking at one of these pushy relatives over this whole issue, so some pat answers that deflect away from the topic would be helpful! [/quote]

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