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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Melinda Wenner Moyer (science writer) just had a good substack about this issue.  There's research showing that being interesting, cool, etc., are less important for making friends than making clear to people that you enjoy spending time with them.

To do that, though, you need to be more selective than most people are (or arguably have time to be).  You have to find people you actually click with.  You also don't need many of them - even one close friend makes a huge difference in quality of life.

I make and keep friendships easily and I'm pretty picky about those friends.  I've learned through the years not to focus on befriending parents of my kids' friends, because it often ends up being complicated.  We're often friendly, not they're not particularly close.  What has worked: a regular workout I *love*, where  I meet like-minded women; keeping up with a few pre-kid friends with whom I get along the best; being clear with people that I enjoy their company.  Small talk isn't the issue so much as waiting for a connection, so it's like dating in that way.  With all the women I've developed friendships, we had an instant affinity, even if the friendship took more time to grow.[/quote]

Agree with all of this![/quote]

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