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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Modern American parenting is uniquely soul sucking in human history:

1) Massive social inequality incentivized “investing” in your kid and cultivating them into bourgeoisie middle class professionals. Well guess what? Not only are there not enough spots for everyone to do this successfully, but some kids won’t ever fit that mold. Therefore, we have huge increases in diagnosed special needs.

2) Care work is devalued so usually both parents have to work and then do the care job after the paid one.

3) lack of extended family and local connections as everyone is busy working

Stop blaming yourself. Your children are people for whom you have love and care. You are not going to be able to control everything about how they turn out. 
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and I don't know what happened but when I gave birth, I immediately became less than in many people's eyes. Doctors, people in stores etc. It was bizarre.[/quote]

Yes, it's like you are categorized immediately into this sphere of "not working lady archetype" and immediately placed into the same category as a woman who had a teen pregnancy, or the lady with 10 kids or the uneducated moms, etc... I totally know what you are saying. Then everyone has an opinion wherever you go, pre kids DH and I were 2 free fun anonymous faces to many strangers when we went out. After kids, forget about it.

This is strange and doesn't align with my experience; I was a young mom for DC (mid-20s) and I felt like people finally treated me like a Real Adult when I had a kid. More respect, etc. But I sure as heck agree with the original quoted post above. Uniquely soul-sucking is 100% right[/quote][/quote]

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