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[quote=Anonymous]	He wants you to move out so he can sell the house and screw you out of the proceeds. Single men don’t want single family houses, and probably married men don’t either.

If you’re on the deed to the house, you don’t have to move out and I’d remember that. He can tell you to do anything, it doesn’t mean you should.

I am also puzzled as to why he’d pay you directly, my guess is his portion of the mortgage and utilities hasn’t actually been going to the bank and utility companies. It’s strange he has a high income and bad credit, where exactly is the money going? Do you know? In any event, if he won’t pay the big companies what he owes, he sure as heck won’t pay you.. and you lack the resources and inclination to really go after him, not with your job, kids, car trouble and health problems.

If it helps any, it sounds like he knows he can’t afford the house and is breaking up with you to get all he can from the sale, including what is rightfully yours and hoping you won’t do anything.. again, where exactly is his money going?

You mention your kids’ father and that story is odd too, he knew his lease was ending yet he didn’t secure a place and he has to go “out of state” why exactly? If I were your fiancé, I’d be worried I’d be paying for your kids, doing all the dad stuff but their father who hasn’t seen them, doesn’t have stable housing, probably doesn’t have stable income (because he’s weird he’d go crash someplace out of state for a month.. normal healthy people don’t do that) and then shows up in your kids’ lives causing disruption.  You’ve already bailed him out by taking your kids for additional time, and if I were the fiancé, I’d be wondering what kind of dysfunctional train I had hitched my engine to.

Whatever is going on, op, you don’t have to mmove and he can’t make you move. If he gets violent, you can have him excluded from the house. Remember that. 
Check to see if the house is already in foreclosure, again the money thing is just odd and the timing is odd. The house might be in such a financial state that nobody but the bank can sell it.

Also, be mindful of your kids’ father and don’t be his rescue service. Care for your kids but don’t make it easy for him, he can’t just make poor decisions and have you pick up the pieces.. and if you do feel that life really screwed him and the poor guy doesn’t have a choice, well, now might be your chance to get back together with him. You already have a house and if you have a soft spot for him.. and it sounds like you might since his behavior is just as weird as your fiance’s, just take the next step and start a romantic relationship with him. Then you can keep that drama amongst yourselves without getting any more romantic partners, friends and the like involved.  
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