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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Long story short, he reads well above his grade level and have some niche interests that he'll happily discuss with adults all day long. No Asperger's or anything, just a kid who loves to read and loves discussing what he's learned with people who get it, which most of his peers do not. E.g., last month we hired a fishing charter, and he spent most of the time talking to the captain about barques vs. brigantines. Or he'll chat up the poor deadheading pilot next to him on the plane about what kind of approach he thinks we might be flying in this weather. We've had long discussions about how adults usually want quiet and he needs to be very aware for hints they're done talking, but it doesn't seem to be sticking. "But my friends don't know anything about things like this." He will stop talking to someone who appears to be done, but next time he runs across an adult who seems like they might know something about something he's into, he strikes up a conversation again. He's only 10, and adults hate it. Any advice?[/quote]

It's always easier for kids to talk to adults because adults are mature enough to make allowances for a child, don't make fun of or pick on a kid for saying something wrong, know how to be polite and pretend to be interested, and so on.

Your kid likely has some social anxiety related to talking to kids his own age who don't have the same maturity as adults. It would be good to help him work on building social skills with same age peers.

At 10, he isn't going to pick up the social cues of adults so you as the adult who does pick up on it, has to intervene. Intervene early and redirect him. Be blunt if you have to. He is not just going to pick it up from subtle cues. [/quote]

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