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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why would she not get a say in who comes over to her home and when?? If she moves in, it's her home too. Of course she deserves a heads up when she will have guests![/quote]

They’re not guests. They’re OP’s kids. OP is never going to treat them like guests. Maybe a rule could be set up about a heads up if they bring a friend over. But the kids are family and likely consider their dad’s house “home” the way many young adult children do when they are first launching.[/quote]

I'm not a guest in my parent's home, but I also don't just show up unannounced, and certainly not with guests. I think GF is completely justified in wanting a reasonable expectation of privacy if she's going to make this her home. It's not saying the kids aren't welcome. It's saying this would be her home too, not just OP, and she deserves to know when she'll be entertaining, and maybe even occasionally say she's not up to it.

The kids are adults with their own homes. We're not talking about teens still living at home with dad. [/quote]

I agree with this, but I also think OP is being reasonable as well. It just means they shouldn’t move in together.[/quote]

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