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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I honestly don’t see the issue. I (the DW) am the introvert and DH is the extrovert. Why do you care, exactly, if DH doesn’t make the social rounds and prefers to read a book? I’d have done something similar in this situation (if I attended at all). My DH would socialize happily, and give me the rundown later over a glass of wine on the patio.

I am not “no fun” but don’t enjoy mingling with random people/acquaintances I have little in common with , and only do it when I have to, and for a short and perfunctory amount of time. I find small talk unbelievably boring and honestly don’t see the point.  I do enjoy spending time with close friends, and socializing while doing a common activity  (volunteer work, exercise class etc) or sometimes stuff for the kids (sports event or something)….but I don’t enjoy talking to ransoms just to talk and fill space.

I suspect it bothers you because you think it is hurting YOU socially? Honestly- this doesn’t seem to be an issue for my DH- and the “introverted wife” is probably less common and more of a social liability 🤣 He gets plenty of invites. Sometimes goes alone, sometimes with the kids, sometimes I join for a bit but often not. I don’t doubt that some wonder or find it strange that I am not present (where is his wife? hmm strange) but they don’t say so openly. It really hasn’t been an issue. Not sure what else to say. I wonder if your own social skills are lacking and you resent that DH can’t “help” by providing some cover?

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I could have written this post (wife here); except I have had a couple say they have wondered about me :).

So I am here to say one person, especially a woman, can carry the family socially. I suspect you are placing unfair blame on your DH for your lack of invites when you may be part of the issue.

Also haven’t there been a bunch of articles in the last couple years how men have no friends?

You don’t seem to like your DH generally though and that must be a terrible way for both of you to live.

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Yup, another wife here in a similar situation and it wouldn't occur to me to shame my husband about it! that's who he is. I've always been more communicative and genuinely enjoy people and have lots of friendships in the neighborhoods and me and the kids are always hanging out with people. We have no social life problem! My husband isn't on any of the group chats. he often doesn't know what we are up to, if its something small, and if it's bigger (like a party), I'll give him the option of going or not going.

My husband has been known to come to a party with us, and then leave after an hour or so while my kids and I stay for 4. And if we want to hang at the pool, he will come late, swim laps, maybe chat with me, maaaaaayyyybbbbeeee chat with another dad if there is someone there who is interesting enough. I find it all delightful.

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