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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I tell my boys that they can do anything girls can do. I tell them that they are biologically stronger than girls. I tell them that men do all the most dangerous jobs and that the jobs that keep society functioning are mostly male dominated. [/quote]

Do you tell them that society should be male dominated? Do you tell them that their strength makes them better than girls or less strong boys?[/quote]

Wow sounds like I hit a nerve![/quote]

Sure! Sounds like you’re deliberately raising boys to believe their strength makes them superior to other people. That’s toxic and makes you part of the problem. [/quote]

DP. If you WANT boys to have a nuanced understanding of what it means that men are on the average stronger than women, it’s sure as sh*t not gonna happen by lecturing them about decentering themselves, expecting them to be superhumanly resistant to negative messaging, and expecting them to accept being judged/excluded based on their gender/color.

Teaching kids about this stuff cannot be left to ditzy leftists whose understanding of human and child psychology goes no deeper than a bumpersticker slogan. Who believe that all we have to do is read our children the Antiracist Baby Book and then they will be perfect activists.

The fact is, the progessive take on teaching values to kids is usually a projection of their own anxiety to make a show of their own moral purity. The focus is all on the adult using the proper moral words, not on how kids actually learn. [/quote]

I’m the “ditzy leftist” above suggesting white boys de center themselves in this argument. I get that people think that’s lefty ditz stuff - but it’s actually a real piece of advice. People in positions of privilege often think that things apply to them when they do not. The messages about girls’ empowerment have nothing to do with OP’s sons. Telling them “this is not about you, here’s what it’s about” should help them to not feel persecuted by a tshirt. Ongoing conversations are incredibly important so that they can put the stuff they see in context - whether they agree with it or not. Not everything you see and have an emotional response to us about you. Not everything should be treated as though it’s about you. It’s not a ditzy leftist thing to say.

What I have largely seen from people saying “ditzy leftists shouldn’t be the only ones teaching kids about this stuff” is that they disagree with my views on this issue and tend to communicate it by being personally insulting, like above. [/quote]

Oh don’t be personally insulted! Just decenter yourself. That wasn’t about you. [/quote]

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