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[quote=Anonymous]In terms of the play dates that you host (whether at your home or outside location like park/zoo), this problem is EASILY solvable by making the play date drop off, which it really should be for 7 year olds.  Drop off at that age is absolutely the norm.  Folks would have to be astonishingly rude to drop off a sibling.

In terms of playdates your DD is invited to, it's a matter of the other families' house rules/policies.  Talk to your DD and explain that.  She could end up having a lovely time with all.  Now, if there is a particular sibling that is genuinely difficult and with whom your DD truly doesn't jibe, then decline the invitation.  My nephew used to literally ruin my niece's playdates.  My sister now arranges to have him out of the house with my BIL or doing something special with her in another part of the house.  (Just some immaturity that he will outgrow I'm sure.)

For those of you -- feels like the majority -- who require siblings be included when you host a playdate, how old is your child who is having the friend over?  And how big is the age spread of siblings?  Is there an age-spread limit of who has to be included?  Do your kids (the older ones in particular) not request SOME time without their siblings?  My older DD is almost 10 and my younger DD just turned 4.  (Big and not-typical age difference, I know, but maybe you folks with 3 have a similar spread over the 3.)  At age 10 the playdates are absolutely not about babysitting; they are about building and nourishing my DD's friendships: one-on-one or small group play at home is different than playing at school or camp, and important to her social development!  She loves and begs for playdates.  She is an AWESOME big sister who patiently plays with younger DD when they are at home or when neighborhood kids gather outside all the time, but they are really not compatible playmates for the kind of stuff she likes to do when she has a friend over.  I keep younger DD out of her hair for the most part when her friends are over.

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