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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Ex DH is always reminding me about being civil. He is trying to be civil, and I will give him credit for that. Because that's his greatest desire -to have the new partner, to be back at church, to raise his kids in a godly way, and to have a friendly and civil ex wife. He would love that so much.  t [/quote]

OP, I say this with kindness, but...you need to detach.

Your ex-husband is a hypocrite. It's not original or unheard of. You need to move on. The only thing you need to discuss with him is logistics for the kids. That's it. He's asking you to fill the role of forgiver and supporter. And you are likely conditioned to do just that. Stop. He likes having you all intertwined and he likes lecturing you to be civil and I will bet my bottom dollar that your faith tradition includes some level of deference to men (most do). He's preying on that to manipulate you into not only forgiving him, but condoning him.

As far as the kids, I'd put on repeat that actions speak louder than words and never say a word against him, but you need to work to make it so that you really and truly do not care. Good luck.[/quote]

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